Definitions fuck with us. I'm not going to go all Wittgenstein, but definitions fuck with people's ability to think. Nowhere is this more apparent than in politics (free market vs. regulation, Republican vs. Democrat) and sex. Define a term and suddenly it is impossible to think outside the definitional box.
Definitions Limit -- By Definition
I'm going to pick on the Swinger versus Poly debate as an example. The poly community attempts to differentiate from Swingers by defining poly as being about love and attachment combined with the sex and sex is only proper with attachment, while Swingers are only about banal physical gratification. Swingers on the contrary, see polys as non-Buddhist attachment mongers and whores, with all the attendant pain that attachment brings. Sex should be solely about physical pleasure.
Frankly, the definitions are very limiting on the human sexual condition. Sex with attachment is completely different than sex at the masked orgy. Different feelings, different emotional states, different motivations, yet feelings, motivations and emotions that can easily be contained within a single, solitary consciousness. By defining oneself as a Swinger or as Poly, you have essentially limited your view of the sexual light spectrum which extends from ultra Violet Blue to Infra Red Porn and carries all of the colors and shades in between.
Words Fuck and Change -- Just Like Humans
No word is as versatile as "Fuck". If you have a grammarian in your midst, see how many parts of speech they can morph fuck into. Hint: Almost all of them , i.e. Fuck! (implied subject You-fucker) fuck the fucking fuck fuckers fuckingly. Any word that versatile is bound to have some use in the language.
Language evolves through societal intercourse, or fucking if you will. Moral usage of a word depends on context and the accuracy of the communication, not on the actual word. If your lover and you use "Cunt" and it is hot, loving and indicative of aggressive female power, then fuck her cunt hard and say, "I fucking love your Cunt." Calling your child's first grade teacher a "Cunt" for giving the stick figure a frowny face sticker -- bad idea. The extremes are easy, nuance takes skill and maturity.
The "Slut Walk" phenomenon is about women trying to recapture the word in much the same way the homosexual community co-opted Gay and Queer. Or the Americans, "Yankee Doodle". The epithet becomes the desired epitaph.
So, all you swinging, poly lifestylers with your gay sluts, queer bitches, assholes yelling Cunt and pigs leering at whores, forget how you define yourself and others and shut up and make loving fuck.
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